{"id":290473,"date":"2026-02-01T17:30:03","date_gmt":"2026-02-01T16:30:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lawandmore.eu\/?p=290473"},"modified":"2026-03-10T22:20:49","modified_gmt":"2026-03-10T21:20:49","slug":"what-if-the-custody-arrangement-isnt-being-followed","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/highpowerlasertherapy.com\/law\/what-if-the-custody-arrangement-isnt-being-followed\/","title":{"rendered":"What If the Custody Arrangement Isn’t Being Followed?<\/gwmw>"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Legal options for parents who need protection under Dutch law<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Law & More  |  Family Law  |  February 2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A custody arrangement is set down on paper. But what happens when the other parent simply doesn’t follow it? What can you do when your children are caught in the middle? And when does the court have the authority to step in? This article gives you clear answers \u2014 based on Dutch law<\/a> and case law.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When parents separate, the wellbeing of the children is the top priority. But in practice, things don’t always go smoothly. Custody arrangements go unfollowed, child support goes unpaid, and communication breaks down completely. In these situations, Dutch law<\/a> provides clear legal tools \u2014 but many parents simply don’t know they can use them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This article focuses on the legal arsenal available when a custody arrangement isn’t working as intended. We cover enforcement, child protection, the role of independent experts, and the boundaries of custody rights. This isn’t a guide to the basics of divorce \u2014 we’ve covered that elsewhere. This is about what you can do when things go wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A custody arrangement is binding \u2014 but is it actually enforced?<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

A custody arrangement set by a court is not advice or a suggestion. It is a legally binding decision. The parent who fails to comply is not only violating a court order, but also infringing on the child’s fundamental right to contact with both parents \u2014 a right explicitly established in Article 1:377a of the Dutch Civil Code.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yet in practice, it happens regularly that a parent does not follow the custody arrangement. Sometimes deliberately, sometimes due to circumstances. The question that quickly arises is: what can the other parent do? And what steps does the law provide?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2696\ufe0f  Legal basis: Every child has the right to contact with both parents. The non-resident parent has both a right and an obligation to maintain contact (Art. 1:377a Dutch Civil Code). Failure to comply with a custody arrangement can be legally addressed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Enforcement: penalty payments and the long arm of the law<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

The most important legal tool when a custody arrangement is not being followed is the penalty payment (dwangsom). If one parent consistently refuses to cooperate, the other parent can ask the court to impose a penalty: a fixed amount of money that becomes due each time the court order is violated. The legal basis for this is Article 611a of the Dutch Code of Civil Procedure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Important to know: a penalty payment is not imposed automatically. The parent seeking enforcement must explicitly request it from the court. The judge then assesses whether a penalty is proportionate given the circumstances. In most cases \u2014 where there is consistent non-compliance without valid reason \u2014 this request is granted.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In exceptionally serious cases, the court can go further still. The order can be declared immediately enforceable, meaning it can be carried out with the assistance of law enforcement. This is an extreme measure and rarely used in practice, but the legal right exists and can be invoked when other instruments fall short.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2696\ufe0f  Legal basis: Penalty payment for non-compliance with custody arrangement (Art. 611a CCP). Enforcement by law enforcement possible when order is declared immediately enforceable (Art. 812 CCP). Both require an explicit request to the court.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When communication breaks down: the court as mediator<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

Enforcement doesn’t always start with a penalty payment. Sometimes the problem isn’t that one parent is deliberately obstructing, but that communication between the parents has completely broken down. In such cases, the court has a number of tools to ease the situation \u2014 before things get worse.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dutch courts are increasingly prescribing the use of co-parenting apps: digital platforms specifically designed for separated parents. These apps provide a structured, archived environment for all communication about the children. That sounds practical \u2014 and it is \u2014 but it goes beyond a mere suggestion. Courts can order the use of such apps as part of a court ruling, when communication between parents has seriously broken down and the interests of the child require it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The logic is simple but effective: by structuring and archiving all communication, the risk of emotional escalation is reduced. And if conflicts arise later about what was or wasn’t agreed upon, the court has a clear record to refer to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Child support: what if your circumstances have changed?<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

We’ve previously written extensively about how child support is calculated. But there’s an aspect that is less often discussed yet very important in practice: what happens when the financial situation of a parent changes significantly after the divorce?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The law is clear on this point. Child support can be adjusted when there is a relevant change in circumstances \u2014 for example, losing a job, starting a new one with a different income, or a change in the custody arrangement (Articles 1:401 and 1:406 of the Dutch Civil Code). The court is not bound by previous agreements if they no longer reflect the current reality. The child has a right to a certain standard of care, and that right takes precedence over any private arrangements between the parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This means that a parent who feels the child support no longer matches the situation has the right to file a modification request with the court. The other parent can contest this, but the court will always reassess the situation with the child’s interests as the guiding principle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2696\ufe0f  Legal basis: Modification of child support upon changed circumstances (Art. 1:401, 1:406 Dutch Civil Code). The court is not bound by earlier agreements that no longer reflect reality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Protecting the child: supervision orders and the special curator<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

Some situations are worse than ordinary non-cooperation. When a child becomes trapped between two parents in constant conflict \u2014 what Dutch law refers to as “high conflict” \u2014 the court can deploy heavier instruments to protect the child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The most significant measure is a supervision order (ondertoezichtstelling): a mechanism whereby a child protection officer is appointed to monitor the child’s situation (Article 1:255 of the Dutch Civil Code). This is not a punishment for either parent, but a protective measure for the child. A supervision order is applied when voluntary support services have proven insufficient and the child’s development is genuinely at risk.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Another measure is the appointment of a special curator: a person who legally represents the child in the proceedings. The curator acts purely in the child’s interests \u2014 independently of both parents (Article 1:250 of the Dutch Civil Code). The curator can be appointed at the request of a parent or by the court itself, and occupies a unique position: they have no stake in the outcome for either parent, only in what is best for the child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2696\ufe0f  Legal basis: Supervision order (Art. 1:255 Dutch Civil Code) when the child’s development is seriously threatened. Special curator (Art. 1:250 Dutch Civil Code) for independent representation of the child’s interests.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The role of experts: when does the child need an independent voice?<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

In serious custody disputes, a parent can ask the court to commission an independent expert assessment. This could be a clinical psychologist who evaluates the child’s emotional state, or another specialist who advises on the parenting capabilities of a parent (Article 810a of the Dutch Code of Civil Procedure).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The legal position of a parent who makes this request is strong. The Dutch Supreme Court has ruled on multiple occasions that a judge cannot reject such a request simply because they feel sufficiently informed. If the request is sufficiently concrete and there are facts that justify an investigation, the court must in principle grant it \u2014 unless the child’s interests argue against it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is an important safeguard for parents who have concerns about their child’s situation. The right to an expert assessment does not depend on the cooperation of the other parent or on the conclusions of the Child Protection Board. The court must independently weigh all advice and explicitly explain why it follows one recommendation over another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When can custody contact be denied? The limits of the law<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

The right to custody contact is a fundamental right in the Netherlands \u2014 for the child and for the parent. But there are limits. Denial of custody contact is an extreme measure, only possible on strictly defined grounds: serious harm to the child, unsuitability of the parent, or serious objections from the child themselves. This last ground only applies once a child is at least twelve years old and able to express their own position (Article 1:377a of the Dutch Civil Code).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The court must apply two principles: subsidiarity and proportionality. This means that fully denying custody contact is only permitted when no milder alternative is available \u2014 such as supervised visits, an adjusted arrangement, or a temporary suspension. And the decision must be carefully justified: a vague sense of unease or a conflict between parents is not sufficient grounds to deny contact.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If a parent is unfairly restricted, appeal and \u2014 if necessary \u2014 cassation are available. The court’s obligation to justify its decision is an important protection: if the ruling is not sufficiently substantiated, it can be challenged at the Court of Appeal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2696\ufe0f  Legal basis: Denial of custody contact only on exhaustive grounds (Art. 1:377a Dutch Civil Code). Subsidiarity and proportionality required. Appeals: Court of Appeal (Art. 806 CCP), Supreme Court (Art. 398 CCP).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The child also has a voice<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

An aspect that is sometimes overlooked in custody disputes is the child’s own right to be heard. Children aged twelve and older have a statutory right to express their views in proceedings that concern them (Article 809 of the Dutch Code of Civil Procedure). The court may not decide without giving the child this opportunity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This right is not absolute: the court is not obligated to follow the child’s wishes. But the child’s view must be taken seriously, and the court must explain why it reaches a different conclusion if it does. In specific cases \u2014 particularly when the child can clearly articulate their interests and experiences \u2014 their view can carry significant weight in the decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The child can also request the appointment of a special curator to strengthen their own voice in the proceedings, or \u2014 in certain cases \u2014 file their own request with the court to have a custody arrangement changed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What can you do as a parent right now?<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

The legal rules are clear, but in the middle of a conflict they can feel far away. Here are practical steps that every parent in this situation can take:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Document everything. <\/strong>Keep messages, emails, and a written record of every instance where the custody arrangement is not followed. Date, time, what was agreed upon, and what actually happened. This forms the foundation of any future court case.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Use a structured communication channel. <\/strong>A co-parenting app is not only practical \u2014 it can also be legally mandated. Use one, and keep all messages.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Get legal advice before you act. <\/strong>Unsure whether the other parent is in violation? Have a family law attorney assess the situation before you take any steps. Rash action can backfire.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Focus on your child’s interests. <\/strong>The court always judges from the perspective of the child’s best interests. A parent who can convincingly demonstrate this \u2014 rather than simply expressing personal frustration \u2014 is more credible in proceedings.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don’t wait if there’s a problem. <\/strong>Delay makes conflicts bigger and more harmful to children. If the custody arrangement is not being followed, take action.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

Q: Can I have a penalty payment imposed if the other parent isn’t following the custody arrangement?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes, but only if you explicitly request it from the court. The court does not impose penalty payments automatically. You must file a request and demonstrate that the other parent is not complying with the court order. Where there is consistent non-compliance without valid reason, this request is granted in most cases (Art. 611a CCP).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: Can the court force me to communicate through a co-parenting app?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes. If communication between parents has seriously broken down and the child’s interests require it, the court can mandate a specific method of communication as part of a court order. Co-parenting apps are increasingly being prescribed by Dutch courts in high-conflict situations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: What if I think the child support no longer reflects my current situation?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You have the right to file a modification request with the court. When there is a relevant change in circumstances \u2014 such as job loss, a new income, or a change in the custody arrangement \u2014 child support can be adjusted (Art. 1:401, 1:406 Dutch Civil Code). The court will reassess the situation with the child’s interests as the guiding principle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: When is a supervision order applied?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

A supervision order is applied when the child’s development is genuinely at risk and voluntary support services have proven insufficient. It is not a punishment for a parent, but a protective measure. The children’s judge decides whether a supervision order is necessary (Art. 1:255 Dutch Civil Code).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: Can I request an independent expert assessment?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes. You can ask the court to commission an expert assessment (Art. 810a CCP). The court must in principle grant this request if it is sufficiently concrete, unless the child’s interests argue against it. The Dutch Supreme Court has confirmed that a court cannot reject such a request simply because it feels sufficiently informed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: Can the other parent deny custody contact entirely?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Denial of custody contact is an extreme measure, only possible on strictly defined grounds: serious harm to the child, unsuitability of the parent, or serious objections from the child (from age 12). The court must apply and justify the principles of subsidiarity and proportionality (Art. 1:377a Dutch Civil Code). If the decision is not sufficiently substantiated, appeal is available.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: Does my child have the right to be heard about the custody arrangement?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Children aged twelve and older have a statutory right to express their views in proceedings that concern them (Art. 809 CCP). The court must take their views seriously, but is not obligated to follow them. Younger children can also be heard if they are considered capable of understanding their own interests.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: What is a special curator and when is one appointed?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

A special curator is a person who legally represents the child in proceedings where the child’s interests conflict with those of the parents (Art. 1:250 Dutch Civil Code). The curator acts exclusively in the child’s interests and can be appointed at the request of a parent or by the court itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: What can I do if the court doesn’t adequately explain why it follows a particular recommendation?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You can file an appeal with the Court of Appeal within three months of the ruling (Art. 806 CCP). The lack of adequate justification can be raised as a ground for appeal. If the Court of Appeal also fails to justify its decision adequately, cassation at the Supreme Court is available (Art. 398 CCP).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: What if one parent takes the children abroad without permission?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Where there is joint custody, the other parent’s consent is required for any relocation (Art. 1:253a Dutch Civil Code). In cases of unauthorised international relocation, the remaining parent can file a request for the return of the child under the Hague Convention on International Child Abduction. The court ultimately decides based on the child’s best interests.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Conclusion<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

The Dutch legal system gives parents a wide range of tools to protect their children’s rights \u2014 even when the other parent is not cooperating. From penalty payments to supervision orders, from special curators to independent expert assessments: the law provides concrete solutions for concrete problems.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The key is knowledge and action. Those who know what’s available can act with purpose. Those who delay give the conflict room to grow \u2014 with the child as the ultimate victim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you unsure about your situation? Or have you reached a point where the custody arrangement simply isn’t working and you don’t know how to proceed? Contact Law & More. Our family law specialists will guide you step by step \u2014 legally sharp and personally committed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Legal Sources<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

Article 1:377a Dutch Civil Code \u2014 Right and obligation to custody contact; denial of contact<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Article 1:253a Dutch Civil Code \u2014 Disputes regarding joint custody<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Article 1:250 Dutch Civil Code \u2014 Special curator<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Article 1:255 Dutch Civil Code \u2014 Supervision order<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Article 1:401 Dutch Civil Code \u2014 Modification of support upon changed circumstances<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Article 1:406 Dutch Civil Code \u2014 Support; modification by the court<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Article 611a CCP \u2014 Penalty payment<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Article 809 CCP \u2014 Right of minors to be heard<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Article 810a CCP \u2014 Expert assessment in family law cases<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Article 812 CCP \u2014 Enforcement of court orders<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Article 806 CCP \u2014 Appeal of court orders<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Article 398 CCP \u2014 Cassation<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Implementation Act on International Child Abduction<\/p>\n\n\n\n

EU Regulation Brussels II-ter<\/p>\n\n\n\n

ECLI:NL:HR:2014:91 \u2014 Denial of custody contact; subsidiarity<\/p>\n\n\n\n

ECLI:NL:HR:2023:1459 \u2014 Penalty payment custody arrangement<\/p>\n\n\n\n

ECLI:NL:HR:2014:2632 \u2014 Expert assessment; court’s obligation<\/p>\n\n\n\n

ECLI:NL:HR:2020:961 \u2014 Expert assessment; weighing of advice<\/p>\n\n\n\n

ECLI:NL:HR:2016:2709 \u2014 Relocation with children; consent required<\/p>\n\n\n\n

ECLI:NL:HR:2021:1513 \u2014 Unauthorised relocation; return order<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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